Every time I speak with a caregiver, I hear the same story in different words:
“I’m fine. I just need to make sure he’s okay.”
“I don’t have time to think about me.”
I get it. You’re focused on your spouse, your parent, your loved one. But here’s the truth:
If you burn out, the whole system breaks down.
That’s why your health—mental, physical, emotional—is not selfish. It’s essential.
Here are a few ways to start protecting your own well-being without guilt:
- Check in with yourself. Just five minutes a day to breathe, reflect, and ask, “How am I doing?”
- Accept help when it’s offered. You’re not supposed to carry it all. Use respite services, counseling, or even a friend’s offer to run errands.
- Talk to your CSP Team. They offer caregiver wellness resources for a reason. Don’t wait until you’re at your limit.
- Reconnect with one thing that’s yours. A walk, a book, a hobby. Even once a week makes a difference.
You show up every day for someone else. Just don’t forget to show up for you, too.
The veteran you care for needs you strong—not worn out. So yes, you matter. And yes, you deserve care, too.
